Thursday, February 02, 2012

Words no child should ever hear

"I regret parenting you".

It hurts, even if you are 44 years old.


  1. So, so sorry. (((hugs)))

  2. That's just wrong.

    There are times we just look to our own children for comfort for the mistakes made by others.

  3. AWWWWww. Sorry to hear.

    Great blog though, just found it, I also have mast cell disease and started a blog

  4. I am so sorry you had to hear this! I can sympathize with what you are going through, in a fight I had with my daughter she told me she wishes I had never adopted her. I know she said this out of anger, but is still hurts so much and I can't help but think it's true. I don't know what she is going through, so I have been using ways from better understand how she is feeling. Do you have any other advice?

  5. Mel, I don't know how old your daughter is and the context she is saying it (is she mad at not gettnig her way vs. just mad at the world type of situation). Either way, I'd sit her down when she's not angry, let her know you love her, that it's okay to be angry that she's adopted, acknowledge her loss and tell her that you are ready to listen and then SHUT UP. Listen, really listen to what she tells you. Don't think about retorts or answers - just listen. If she is a child, I recommend the blog She comes from a place of parenting through healing. I love the way she writes and the way she parents.